The Empty Place

We all have a void, and a small quiet voice that is trying to get our attention to live as a healthy human being by prompting us to seek intimacy with God and others. We are designed for relationships. Intimate relationships are a foundational necessity for being a healthy human being. From years of working with hurting and addict­ed people, I have come to understand a common root that drives our self-destructive coping behaviors. Human addictive coping behaviors are simply ways to temporarily anesthetize the awareness of the empty place, which can feel like a deep loneliness. This empty place can only be filled by intimacy with God and people.


“The easiest kind of relationship for me is with 10,000 people. The hardest is with one.”
~ Joan Baez

Thought for the Week: Submission

The other day, a woman who had been wounded by legalism asked me about my thoughts on submission. I thought I'd share my answer with you.

I believe the word submission has become very misunderstood because of how Christians and other religions have used it for power, control and abuse both within the church and personal relationships, e.g. wives submit to your husbands. Power is by far our most addictive emotion and we usually use philosophical or religious ideology to condone and justify it. I read recently that the word submission actually is a military term where one rank submits to a higher rank in order to achieve a common goal, thus voluntary cooperation.

Rebellion is the fear of being controlled.


Stress... The #1 Enemy

Stress is the # 1 killer and destroyer of our relationship in the USA.

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Many are turning to eastern religions because they teach practical tools for reducing stress and its effects. I have developed a Genesis mediation with practical tools for being able to lower stress what drives it. Stress is another word for fear. If you identify the fear (belief system) the stress will go away.

Try it for 30 days and you will see change.